I have been with a woman for over 10 years. She has a best friend who will do anything, and everything for her. My girlfriend's 24 yr old son needs to borrow a car for work. The best friend loans hers to my girlfriend's son. then the best friend asks me to borrow my truck because I am going to be out of town for a week. I say no because if they wreck it, they cannot afford to pay my deductible. I told the best friend she is crazy for loaning her car out. My girlfriend is pissed at me, and said I made myself look bad. Do I look bad just because her best friend will do it? Does it mean I have too, as well?  My girlfriend said I should be helping instead of her best friend. so now my girlfriend and her best friend are angry with me. What do i do?  I do loan it on occasion to them, like for a day, or two, but really I get scared and nervous because if someone wrecks it, I am out a car, and I need to work, etc. What do i do? Help please.

------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------

Of course you're not wrong! You have a perfect right to protect your property, and there is a strong possibility that something could happen that would leave you out of a car, out of money, and disadvantaged. Absurd. Not only would you have to pay the deductible because of another individuals negligence, your insurance would go up. It's pretty typical that when you give some people an inch, they will demand a mile. That is the reason to think twice before you set a precedent of this nature. I am sorry for you, because your girlfriend of ten years should not expect this from you. Perhaps you should rethink this relationship. Her loyalty is not to you and your interests, but to the friend who does so much for her. Why that's the case has me wondering, and why your girlfriend needs so much done for her is another area of concern. Whatever the case, stand your ground.