Dear Miss Emily:
Hey, I have a boyfriend of 4 years, were now engaged, and he has been on these chat sites talking to
girls about love and
everything. It makes me feel like he
doesn't love me anymore. What should I do? He
doesn't know
that i
know, but I'
ve caught him before, too, and he promised he would stop and he
hasn't. Should I
confront him? Please help me. I
don't know what to do. I
really love him. He's all I have! I
don't wanna lose him, but it hurts when he talks to these
girls and it's not like "Hey
what's up?" he even asked to meet some of them. Does it mean
that he's looking for someone else?
-----------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------
He may want you, but it seems he wants other girls too! You shouldn't accept this behavior. You have invested four years with him and, now, you find he's up to his old tricks when you are
supposed to be his number one girl. Perhaps you and he are young, and he hasn't
gotten gotten the desire to be with other girls out of his system, but do not
marry him until he does. If you do, it would a contract, but little else. Marriage is, or should be a commitment between two people, and no more. You' say you love him dearly, but he has to love you in the same way for you
to ever feel wanted and needed. Yes, confront him, but do not allow him
to explain that he was just kidding, or it was all in fun. That would be
a lie. You've already suffered enough humiliation by him making a
mockery of the four years you have spent with him. He needs to prove to
you that he can be the man, and the husband you would want him to be. Right now, he's failed the test. Do not think that you have only him. You have you, too, and it's important for you to realize that.
