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Ex Break Up Over Phone
- By Miss Emily
- Published 10/27/2011
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
I was in a relationship for 4 years with a guy that I am madly in love with, through throughout our relationship he has left me for other women. He recently broke up with me, again, but this time he isn't with anyone else. We lived together, and had a dog together. When we broke up, he broke up with me over the phone when I was at home. He wouldn't even come see me before I left. He hasn't talked to me since. He won't answer my calls, or texts. I really want to be with him. His family still talks to me, everyday, and we always go out and do things. They all want us together. Do you think it's really over, or is it just time he needs? We were best friends. Or should I move on, and stop talking to his family. He still has all of our pictures up in his house. It is still the same way I left it, and he didn't want to willingly give me my stuff back either. What does this mean. I know it's a confusing many questions sorry.
---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
If he's confused and truly doesn't know what he wants, you still can't ignore his confusion. He made a radical break with you this time, and it seems he's reached a new level of negative feelings for the relationship. In the past, he's left you for other women, and although you say there is no one in his life now, you can't really know for sure, right? If he's kept your pictures in his house, it doesn't mean it's for sentimental reasons, it could only mean he hasn't bothered to take them down. I know how painful this is, but you can't force him to change his mind. If he does, he has to come to you. Staying in touch with his family only makes it more difficult for you, and I would limit that. As well, I'm sure he may find that as an annoyance; yet I know it's hard to cut people out of your life who you care for so deeply. I am so sorry this has happened to you, but this is a time to take stock and get on with your life no matter how arduous. You should want to be with a man who is fully committed to you, and not with someone who, in the past, was willing to easily throw you over for another woman and, now, be so cowardly as to break up with you over the phone. I think you should start looking at the real man, and not someone you want him to be.
---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
If he's confused and truly doesn't know what he wants, you still can't ignore his confusion. He made a radical break with you this time, and it seems he's reached a new level of negative feelings for the relationship. In the past, he's left you for other women, and although you say there is no one in his life now, you can't really know for sure, right? If he's kept your pictures in his house, it doesn't mean it's for sentimental reasons, it could only mean he hasn't bothered to take them down. I know how painful this is, but you can't force him to change his mind. If he does, he has to come to you. Staying in touch with his family only makes it more difficult for you, and I would limit that. As well, I'm sure he may find that as an annoyance; yet I know it's hard to cut people out of your life who you care for so deeply. I am so sorry this has happened to you, but this is a time to take stock and get on with your life no matter how arduous. You should want to be with a man who is fully committed to you, and not with someone who, in the past, was willing to easily throw you over for another woman and, now, be so cowardly as to break up with you over the phone. I think you should start looking at the real man, and not someone you want him to be.
