Dear Miss Emily:

Hi, I have been dating this guy for 7 months, now, and I'm madly in love with him and the way he treats me. I believe he is feeling the same. He recently found out that I lied concerning something he had asked me about in my past, and he broke up with me. But I love him dearly and don't want to lose him, What can I do to get him back? Or what should I do?

------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------------

I feel bad for you.  Sometimes we want our past to just go away, not haunt us, and when confronted with it, we often lie to cover our butts. But, as you can see, you weren't going to get a pass on this one. Had you told him the truth, I'm not sure it wouldn't have colored his attitude about you, but in most cases, the truth is best.  But you can't go back and change what happened. Now he knows the truth.  If you apologized, and tried to explain your reasons for lying -- we're all human after all -- it would have been nice to know he's capable of forgiveness. Apparently, at least right now, he's not. You don't want to be a pest, nor needy. It's up to him to find his way back to you if it's ever going to happen. You can't force someone to love you. And even if you could, you wouldn't respect him. Nope! You've apologized profusely (I am sure) but, now, he sees the trust between you and him has been  broken. We can only hope that, in time, he'll see the wonderful you, beyond the deception, and let it pass. But only time will tell on that score.