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Internet Dating Site Dilemma
- By Miss Emily
- Published 10/16/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Emily.
I am a 20 year old male. Recently, I had decided to take up Internet dating as I'm still learning to find my feet with people, again. Ever since I graduated from high school, I had somewhat started to neglect the social aspect of my life, and so I thought it would be a good idea to maybe start a conversation using a dating site as I tend to get really nervous around people and lock up. Well, to get to the point, I had some success and found someone really promising. We started a conversation, quite well, and it felt as though we hit it off. But she has yet to respond to my previous email, which I had sent to her 5 days before. I had decided to pop back onto the dating site a couple of times to check when last she had logged in, and she had logged in on a regular basis. At this stage, I'm wondering whether I should either abandon the idea of contacting her again, and possibly meeting her in person, pop her another email to ask whether she had received my last email (just incase she wanted to respond, but was too busy and forgot), or whether I should just wait a bit longer for her to respond. I just feel as though I should just leave it, but that could mean I'm passing up a good oppurtunity. Another part of me tells me to just email her, but that would make me look pushy. Maybe it's just her way of saying that she just isn't interested. Maybe some light can be shed on this? It would be greatly appreciated.
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
I have a tendency to think if she's logged on to that dating site, she would have also had an opportunity to write back to you. She may have a few irons in the fire, and talking to many guys. One may have peaked her interest over you or, as you had suggested, she's lost interest. I know that some people (and I have written advice to 11,000) need to take certain things to the finite, and this may be you. Of course, not hearing from her isn't a good sign, but if you think you want to pursue this to your satisfaction, you could write to her and say, "I will take you not responding to my last e-mail as not wanting to pursue this relationship, but I wish you all the best." This, I think, does wrap up those loose ends, and you'll know exactly where you stand -- at least, for now.
I am a 20 year old male. Recently, I had decided to take up Internet dating as I'm still learning to find my feet with people, again. Ever since I graduated from high school, I had somewhat started to neglect the social aspect of my life, and so I thought it would be a good idea to maybe start a conversation using a dating site as I tend to get really nervous around people and lock up. Well, to get to the point, I had some success and found someone really promising. We started a conversation, quite well, and it felt as though we hit it off. But she has yet to respond to my previous email, which I had sent to her 5 days before. I had decided to pop back onto the dating site a couple of times to check when last she had logged in, and she had logged in on a regular basis. At this stage, I'm wondering whether I should either abandon the idea of contacting her again, and possibly meeting her in person, pop her another email to ask whether she had received my last email (just incase she wanted to respond, but was too busy and forgot), or whether I should just wait a bit longer for her to respond. I just feel as though I should just leave it, but that could mean I'm passing up a good oppurtunity. Another part of me tells me to just email her, but that would make me look pushy. Maybe it's just her way of saying that she just isn't interested. Maybe some light can be shed on this? It would be greatly appreciated.
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
I have a tendency to think if she's logged on to that dating site, she would have also had an opportunity to write back to you. She may have a few irons in the fire, and talking to many guys. One may have peaked her interest over you or, as you had suggested, she's lost interest. I know that some people (and I have written advice to 11,000) need to take certain things to the finite, and this may be you. Of course, not hearing from her isn't a good sign, but if you think you want to pursue this to your satisfaction, you could write to her and say, "I will take you not responding to my last e-mail as not wanting to pursue this relationship, but I wish you all the best." This, I think, does wrap up those loose ends, and you'll know exactly where you stand -- at least, for now.
