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Teen Boy Needs To Get Honest With Himself
- By Miss Emily
- Published 10/14/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
So I'm talking to my ex girlfriend again. We broke up the first time because I lied to her about little stuff like not telling her I danced with girls at clubs, or I hungout with a friend that's a girl. Anyways, now we're talking again and trying to build our relationship back. But the other day, I hooked up with a friend at my college. My ex goes to a college a few states away. I don't know if I should tell my ex, or take the guilt like a man and deal with it? I wanna do the thing that would hurt her the least, but I don't know whether I should tell her because she doesn''t want me lying to her, or deal with it because I'm not going to do it, again, and it meant nothing to me? Can you help me out with some advice?
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
This is a long distance relationship, and they are hard to maintain in the best circumstances. But are you really looking at the bigger picture here? The truth is, you can't seem to get it right, so why even try to get back together with your ex if you can't do it in the way you say you want but, obviously, don't have the ability to do it? It's not wrong of you to take up with anyone but, now, you've set yourself up for being the big deceiver, again. And let's face it, is living with the guilt really being a man, or is it protecting your ass because you want her, but you also want what you want when the opportunity presents itself? Being a man is standing behind your actions, or owning up to them when you were wrong. You can't go back and change what happened, but I do think if you told your ex you slept with a girl (and that's what I assume you meant by "hooking up"), she'd tell you to take a hike. After all, she told you to do that when you were hanging out with a female friend, and dancing with girls -- not screwing one of them! I'd get honest with myself before I ever hoped to be honest with your ex, or anyone for that matter. Start there. Ask yourself, what do I really want? And when you find out, go after it. But not with the duplicity that you have used in the past.
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------
This is a long distance relationship, and they are hard to maintain in the best circumstances. But are you really looking at the bigger picture here? The truth is, you can't seem to get it right, so why even try to get back together with your ex if you can't do it in the way you say you want but, obviously, don't have the ability to do it? It's not wrong of you to take up with anyone but, now, you've set yourself up for being the big deceiver, again. And let's face it, is living with the guilt really being a man, or is it protecting your ass because you want her, but you also want what you want when the opportunity presents itself? Being a man is standing behind your actions, or owning up to them when you were wrong. You can't go back and change what happened, but I do think if you told your ex you slept with a girl (and that's what I assume you meant by "hooking up"), she'd tell you to take a hike. After all, she told you to do that when you were hanging out with a female friend, and dancing with girls -- not screwing one of them! I'd get honest with myself before I ever hoped to be honest with your ex, or anyone for that matter. Start there. Ask yourself, what do I really want? And when you find out, go after it. But not with the duplicity that you have used in the past.
