It's complicated, that I know! Doomed? I cannot say that is the case, although there are some red flags. There's a lot of drama going on in his office, and he should set boundaries now that he's dating you -- but he may not. It's interesting that he's let you in on this office intrigue, but the rest of his life is kept fairly private. Many a person will keep his, or her family separate for various reasons. Two of the reasons, of course, is to not "upset" the children that daddy is dating -- or he's simply not ready, or never will be ready to meld the two. I would think that, within the next 2 or 3 months if you haven't met his kids, that's not a good sign for a future with him. Even if the reason were out of fear that his kids are sensitive, or they wouldn't accept you in his life, that alone lays problems at your feet you don't need. If he wants you in his life, but not all of his life, he wants a companion and nothing more. Time will tell on that score. As far as this office employee who's out of line, it's nothing to really worry about unless you were to find out he has feelings for her. At some time, were you to meet her, she should be respectful. If she's not, and he allows it, that shows he's gutless and does not honor the respect you deserve. Be smart about this relationship, but not to the point where you are always suspicious. In time, this is going to unfold more clearly. Do not hesitate to ask, however, in the next two or three months, if you can meet the kids. If he hedges (fears they won't accept you, or he wants to keep you separate from them) that's when you decide to accept it, or break up with him in order to keep your heart from feeling as if he threw it in the blender and pressed frappe!