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Dorm Roommate From Hell
- By Miss Emily
- Published 10/2/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily,
I am 19 years old and a female. I just recently started college. I decided to room with an okay friend from high school. The first week or so went okay but, then, suddenly she starts being really rude. She makes fun of me, gives me dirty looks, and is always talking behind my back now. I realize that people have their bad days but this has been going on for weeks now and I do not know what to do. I am a clean and tidy person. I never touch her things, and I always leave her alone when she is studying. She throws food on my bed and is always putting me down to make her feel better. I have no idea what to do!! Please help!!
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------
Perhaps she's jealous (horribly insecure) and/or selfish, spoiled and spiteful, but it appears you are a victim of outright abuse. You pay for your half of the room, and you have a right to assert yourself in getting her to back off. She sees you as an easy target, apparently, and that has to stop. If telling her you expect her to be respectful of you is not heeded (and you can tell her in a nice, but assertive way), see if someone will switch with you from another room (a friend of hers if she even has any) or go to the college campus office that is in charge of the dorms (or dorm supervisor). Ask them if you can put in a request for a new roommate, or what remedies you can take. It is quite common to find out that the person you thought would be okay to room with in small quarters, for an extended period of time, is the roommate from hell. This girl has big problems, but you shouldn't have to put up with it. Again, put your foot down and do something about it before this gets really out of hand. Do not roll over and play dead. That's what this type of person expects.
I am 19 years old and a female. I just recently started college. I decided to room with an okay friend from high school. The first week or so went okay but, then, suddenly she starts being really rude. She makes fun of me, gives me dirty looks, and is always talking behind my back now. I realize that people have their bad days but this has been going on for weeks now and I do not know what to do. I am a clean and tidy person. I never touch her things, and I always leave her alone when she is studying. She throws food on my bed and is always putting me down to make her feel better. I have no idea what to do!! Please help!!
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------
Perhaps she's jealous (horribly insecure) and/or selfish, spoiled and spiteful, but it appears you are a victim of outright abuse. You pay for your half of the room, and you have a right to assert yourself in getting her to back off. She sees you as an easy target, apparently, and that has to stop. If telling her you expect her to be respectful of you is not heeded (and you can tell her in a nice, but assertive way), see if someone will switch with you from another room (a friend of hers if she even has any) or go to the college campus office that is in charge of the dorms (or dorm supervisor). Ask them if you can put in a request for a new roommate, or what remedies you can take. It is quite common to find out that the person you thought would be okay to room with in small quarters, for an extended period of time, is the roommate from hell. This girl has big problems, but you shouldn't have to put up with it. Again, put your foot down and do something about it before this gets really out of hand. Do not roll over and play dead. That's what this type of person expects.
