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Crush On Teacher
- By Miss Emily
- Published 09/26/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
Well i have kind of a problem. I'm a 15 year old sophomore in high school. i feel....i dont know, attracted to one of my teachers. He is my english teacher. He's so funny and very attractive. Well the problem is that i have his wife for a teacher too. Everytime i go into her class i feel so much hatred towards her. When I see them together, i feel so mad. One time, I got so mad that my friends noticed, and almost found out about my feelings for him. I get nervous when he's near me I look at him a lot. I just like him a lot. But what should i do about his wife? I hate her so much, and i don't even know why. What should i do about it? Please help:(
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
You hate her because you have feelings for her husband, but the feelings are misplaced and, deep down, you know it. It's not uncommon to be attracted to a teacher. It happens all the time. Not only is he a good teacher, he's attractive in all other ways. But now you must get serious about the repercussions of feeling the way you do. It's not going to hurt your teacher, or his wife, but these feelings hurt you. You are now angry, and hostile, and it's showing. Part of growing-up is facing issues like this, head-on, and reasoning them out. And here's how to do it: Know that these feelings are not unusual to have for a teacher, but also understand that nothing could happen between you and him. For one, he's married. And most importantly, you're a minor (and a student), and it's against the law for an adult to get involved with a minor in any romantic way. Were he to act on having a relationship with a student (which I am sure he would not), he would be fired and sent to jail.; realize that his wife is an innocent in your feelings for him. She came into his life long before you started having these feelings, and she has every right to be married to him. Once you understand these things are facts, I think it will be easier to accept that this is a crush, only, and you'll be able to ease off on your hostility toward his wife. A crush on a teacher isn't any different than a crush on a someone famous. It can be fun, and it's neat to dream, but reality is that it's next to impossible for anything to happen down the line. Both he and his wife worked very hard for their teaching jobs, and everyday they work hard to keep them. Please respect that in the same way you would want anyone to respect a family member whom you love, and would not want to see hurt in any way.
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
You hate her because you have feelings for her husband, but the feelings are misplaced and, deep down, you know it. It's not uncommon to be attracted to a teacher. It happens all the time. Not only is he a good teacher, he's attractive in all other ways. But now you must get serious about the repercussions of feeling the way you do. It's not going to hurt your teacher, or his wife, but these feelings hurt you. You are now angry, and hostile, and it's showing. Part of growing-up is facing issues like this, head-on, and reasoning them out. And here's how to do it: Know that these feelings are not unusual to have for a teacher, but also understand that nothing could happen between you and him. For one, he's married. And most importantly, you're a minor (and a student), and it's against the law for an adult to get involved with a minor in any romantic way. Were he to act on having a relationship with a student (which I am sure he would not), he would be fired and sent to jail.; realize that his wife is an innocent in your feelings for him. She came into his life long before you started having these feelings, and she has every right to be married to him. Once you understand these things are facts, I think it will be easier to accept that this is a crush, only, and you'll be able to ease off on your hostility toward his wife. A crush on a teacher isn't any different than a crush on a someone famous. It can be fun, and it's neat to dream, but reality is that it's next to impossible for anything to happen down the line. Both he and his wife worked very hard for their teaching jobs, and everyday they work hard to keep them. Please respect that in the same way you would want anyone to respect a family member whom you love, and would not want to see hurt in any way.
