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Trouble Getting Over Ex-girlfriend
- By Miss Emily
- Published 09/24/2011
- Relationships - Men
Dear Miss Emily:
Hi. So here's the problem. I was in a relationship last year with a girl who I know was my perfect woman - my soul mate even. But we broke up. She ended it because she said she just stopped loving me. Within three weeks, I began seeing a girl who used to be her best friend at least half a year ago. I've been seeing her at least 8 months now. I've said "I love you" but I feel I was rushed into it. And the only time I'm happy with her is if she is with me. If not, then I'm not interested. But the worst part is I miss my ex, unbelievably much, and I can say i'm still madly in love with her. Most nights I stay awake because I miss her that much. I turn to alcohol. or even sleeping pills to help me get to sleep or forget about it for that time. Please, what can I do? I've tried to talk to my ex, but she just completely blanked me. I really need advice.
----------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------
Stop brooding, and man-up. Your ex, although you think she was your soul-mate, did not feel the same. She has moved on, and so must you. And that means away from this girl you're dating, as well. You do her no favors by telling her you love her. That's not only deceptive, but cruel if you're pining for your ex. Break it off with her, but leave out the part about you not being over your ex. Simply tell her you no longer feel the type of commitment to the relationship that she deserves. And be firm. She may get her feelings hurt, but it's cowardice to go on like you are. It is a fact that relationships stay together, or they don't. Your ex no longer wanted to be with you, said she stopped loving you, and you're holding on to a dream. Face the truth, and get on with living your life. Matters of the heart are seldom free of pain, and it seems you are a prime example of that. If this situation doesn't improve in time, seek therapy to get to the bottom of why you can't move forward and still use alcohol and medication to get you through this rough patch. Rent the movie (500) Days of Summer if you haven't already seen it. It's a good film, and I think the plot line is similar to what you've been through.
Hi. So here's the problem. I was in a relationship last year with a girl who I know was my perfect woman - my soul mate even. But we broke up. She ended it because she said she just stopped loving me. Within three weeks, I began seeing a girl who used to be her best friend at least half a year ago. I've been seeing her at least 8 months now. I've said "I love you" but I feel I was rushed into it. And the only time I'm happy with her is if she is with me. If not, then I'm not interested. But the worst part is I miss my ex, unbelievably much, and I can say i'm still madly in love with her. Most nights I stay awake because I miss her that much. I turn to alcohol. or even sleeping pills to help me get to sleep or forget about it for that time. Please, what can I do? I've tried to talk to my ex, but she just completely blanked me. I really need advice.
----------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------
Stop brooding, and man-up. Your ex, although you think she was your soul-mate, did not feel the same. She has moved on, and so must you. And that means away from this girl you're dating, as well. You do her no favors by telling her you love her. That's not only deceptive, but cruel if you're pining for your ex. Break it off with her, but leave out the part about you not being over your ex. Simply tell her you no longer feel the type of commitment to the relationship that she deserves. And be firm. She may get her feelings hurt, but it's cowardice to go on like you are. It is a fact that relationships stay together, or they don't. Your ex no longer wanted to be with you, said she stopped loving you, and you're holding on to a dream. Face the truth, and get on with living your life. Matters of the heart are seldom free of pain, and it seems you are a prime example of that. If this situation doesn't improve in time, seek therapy to get to the bottom of why you can't move forward and still use alcohol and medication to get you through this rough patch. Rent the movie (500) Days of Summer if you haven't already seen it. It's a good film, and I think the plot line is similar to what you've been through.
