Dear Miss Emily:

I have been with my girlfriend for 9 months, and she's wonderful, but every time she's upset she gets mad at everybody and I can't do anything because it's a long-distance relationship. I really love her more then I have loved anyone, and I am going to visit her soon.  I want to get her a promise ring, but I don't know what to do. She is older then me, and I dont know whether I should move ahead in our relationship, or not. Please help.

------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------

If she gets upset with everyone when she is angry, she's got a problem with maturity and/or a sense of entitlement, and that's acceptable behavior to her. I would not promise anything to anyone who has this emotional problem. Were you to get with this "wonderful" girl with anger issues, you'd be right in the center of the storm if you are in the same place as she for any length of time. I don't know whether you have to break up with her, right now, but I'd let her know that this behavior is not acceptable to you, nor should it be to her family and friends. If she's not willing to take a look at this and do something about it to preserve the relationship, I think you can consider yourself lucky to find out before any promises were made. My guess is that if you approach her about this, you'll be in her line of fire. But give it a try to reason with her. And expect results!