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"Am I bi-sexual?"
- By Miss Emily
- Published 09/8/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Daer Miss Emily:
I have had this crush on this guy for a year now. I really like him, but he hasn't known that for a year. He's had loads of girlfriends including my best friend. He dumped my best friend a while ago, and is now dating some other chick. But my "bestie" and I can't get over him. I've had many boyfriends after I went out with him (twice), and she has had one. She's still in a relationship, but plans to end it. We ended up talking about being lesbian's if it didn't work out. It was my idea. And she was serious too! I don't know what'll happen, but I'm talking to her tomorrow. What should I do? I still like him, and I think I like her. Help?
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------
I understand that females are more apt to explore having sex with the same sex, these days, but one pretty much falls on one side or the other. I'm not saying there isn't such a thing as being bi-sexual, but I think it's far less common than being gay, or lesbian. If you were to get sexually involved with your "bestie" I'm not sure how it would turn out. If you and she are mature, and handle it without jealousy and irrational expectations, the experiment could end up okay -- if indeed that's what it becomes -- and without you and her ending the friendship because you can't deal with the aftermath. And if you did do this, I would keep it between you and her. No one needs to know, because you know how nasty some people can be, and how easily we are labeled in society. You don't want to wear the "lesbian banner" across your chest if you decide it was a passing fancy. Again, I can't tell you not to experiment, but I think you may find out that guys are where your heart truly lies, and this potential plan may be only a "stop gap" in you giving up the quest for a boyfriend -- just because this one guy isn't available, and he's the stud every girl wants, and many don't end up having. That's life, as I'm sure you are aware.
I have had this crush on this guy for a year now. I really like him, but he hasn't known that for a year. He's had loads of girlfriends including my best friend. He dumped my best friend a while ago, and is now dating some other chick. But my "bestie" and I can't get over him. I've had many boyfriends after I went out with him (twice), and she has had one. She's still in a relationship, but plans to end it. We ended up talking about being lesbian's if it didn't work out. It was my idea. And she was serious too! I don't know what'll happen, but I'm talking to her tomorrow. What should I do? I still like him, and I think I like her. Help?
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------
I understand that females are more apt to explore having sex with the same sex, these days, but one pretty much falls on one side or the other. I'm not saying there isn't such a thing as being bi-sexual, but I think it's far less common than being gay, or lesbian. If you were to get sexually involved with your "bestie" I'm not sure how it would turn out. If you and she are mature, and handle it without jealousy and irrational expectations, the experiment could end up okay -- if indeed that's what it becomes -- and without you and her ending the friendship because you can't deal with the aftermath. And if you did do this, I would keep it between you and her. No one needs to know, because you know how nasty some people can be, and how easily we are labeled in society. You don't want to wear the "lesbian banner" across your chest if you decide it was a passing fancy. Again, I can't tell you not to experiment, but I think you may find out that guys are where your heart truly lies, and this potential plan may be only a "stop gap" in you giving up the quest for a boyfriend -- just because this one guy isn't available, and he's the stud every girl wants, and many don't end up having. That's life, as I'm sure you are aware.
