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Is Mother Cheating?
- By Miss Emily
- Published 09/6/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
My mom is 42 years old and she has a password on her cell phone so no one can see her messages. Well, one day i saw her put in her password over her shoulder and, then, got her phone and looked at her messages....and she had 2 messages from this guy saying shes a sexy b**** and they need to get drinks and go out soon, and he has been thinking of her. She is married for 24 years in October, and has 3 children -- me being the youngest and my 2 older brothers....what should i do?
----------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------------
Oh, boy, this is too much information for you to handle, and I understand why you wrote to me. That said, your mother's privacy is something you should not have invaded -- and now you know one of the reasons why. I admit this looks suspect, but you don't know if this guy is making suggestions to your mother that she has absolutely no intention of following through on, or there's something to your suspicions. That's why I don't think you should rock the boat now. What she is doing may be some kind of flirtation just to make her feel like men still find her attractive. She's human. But you didn't say if your mother responded to him and, if not, it's possible he could have had the wrong number, or he's pestering her and she has no role in it. I'm trying to think of any other reason for these phone messages. I tend to think if I told you to stay away from your mother's phone, you wouldn't listen to me -- but it would be a good idea! You didn't mention your age, but you take a risk in telling what you know. If things were to get to a point where you feel you need to tell someone -- were you to have more knowledge of anything that suggests your mother is having an affair -- then you can tell her what you know, or someone you trust. But beware! You would have to know that this may very well open up a can of worms, and you might decide to separate yourself from this, knowing that your parents are adults and, ultimately, need to work things out on their own if there is more here than meets the eye. But you are their child, and I certainly can see how this would trouble you.
----------------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------------
Oh, boy, this is too much information for you to handle, and I understand why you wrote to me. That said, your mother's privacy is something you should not have invaded -- and now you know one of the reasons why. I admit this looks suspect, but you don't know if this guy is making suggestions to your mother that she has absolutely no intention of following through on, or there's something to your suspicions. That's why I don't think you should rock the boat now. What she is doing may be some kind of flirtation just to make her feel like men still find her attractive. She's human. But you didn't say if your mother responded to him and, if not, it's possible he could have had the wrong number, or he's pestering her and she has no role in it. I'm trying to think of any other reason for these phone messages. I tend to think if I told you to stay away from your mother's phone, you wouldn't listen to me -- but it would be a good idea! You didn't mention your age, but you take a risk in telling what you know. If things were to get to a point where you feel you need to tell someone -- were you to have more knowledge of anything that suggests your mother is having an affair -- then you can tell her what you know, or someone you trust. But beware! You would have to know that this may very well open up a can of worms, and you might decide to separate yourself from this, knowing that your parents are adults and, ultimately, need to work things out on their own if there is more here than meets the eye. But you are their child, and I certainly can see how this would trouble you.
