Dear Miss Emily:

I am madly in love with a girl who is engaged. The trouble is she loves me, too, but she does not know what to do about the fiance. She can't do without us both. What do I do? Do I leave her alone, when in fact staying away from her hurts me within? Please help me I really need advice. She is supposed to get married next April.

--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------

One of you is going to be out of the picture, eventually (you or her fiance), but I feel for both of you. Were she to go ahead and marry her fiance when she has feelings for you, well, that would be a mistake in my humble opinion. Marriage can be an effort in the best circumstances without starting with this issue. I would tell her that fact, and what you do from there on out is up to you, of course. You stated that either way, staying or going may be a recipe for a broken heart. I don't think staying in there is the best choice, however. If you were to tell her "I love you, but I can't stick around hoping you'll come around," maybe that will jolt her into reality. If it does not, she was never going to be yours from the get-go.