I'm a 23year old gal, pregnant and will be due any day from now. Right now I feel lost and confused about my life and choices I have made so far. I can't stand my boyfriend. He has changed into a person I don't know and dislike so much. He is such a "don't care" guy. He does things to make his friends happy, wastes money on partying, but when I ask for something he never has money and tells me I should ask my mum. I'm really starting to think that he's going to be a useless father to our baby, and I think this relationship should end cause I don't want him anymore in my life. So the advice I need from you is should I stay, or should I give him a chance to change for the better?

------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------

I get many letters with your problem. When a baby isn't planned, and I assume this one wasn't, a guy often feels like his life is over as he knows it and becomes hostile, or indifferent. Right now, all you can do is focus on having the baby and providing the love and care he, or she will need. I do not know what country you live in, but he should be responsible, by law, for helping out financially. No one, however, can force him to be a part of his child's life on an emotional level if he chooses to be a no-show. Perhaps he will come around as an attentive father, but as far as a partner to you, the jury is out. Again, he is behaving in an all-too common manner when a guy finds out he's going to be a father to a child, and he's still a child himself. Take it a day at a time, and make your baby a priority. He may never come around to be any more than what he is showing you today. Be prepared for that, and make plans accordingly.