Well here it goes. My problem is that there is a girl who says she's pregnant by me. But I had never ejaculated inside of her. Now my problem is that I found out she slept with someone else while I was seeing her. Could she have gotten pregnant by me even though I pulled out? What should I say to her. There's another problem: I am with someone that I really love. I would even give my life for her -- that's how much I love her. I don't want to lose her to something that I didn't intend to make. Right now it's killing me inside, I try to hide my worries, but I feel it hurts me more. I have not spoken with the girl who says she is pregnant, either. What to do? Is there a way to make this disappear?

--------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------

"Pulling out" is not a sure thing, but if she slept with someone else while you were seeing her, he may very well  be the father. This is a common occurrence, as you know, but don't twist yourself into a pretzel just yet. If this girl is determined to have this child (if indeed she really is pregnant) you will demand, and through the court, if necessary, a DNA test to determine if you are the father of the child. Again, if this girl was not faithful, it's anyone's guess who's the "baby daddy." There's no way to make this disappear, but I think you need to tell this girl, "Don't be saying this is my child until you can prove it, and that means a DNA test. Until then, I'm going to go on with my life knowing that it is certainly possible this baby is not mine." Whether you tell the girl you are now seeing is up to you. But at least wait until you've talked to this other girl. She may back down if, indeed, you've called her bluff. Were she to badger you, or even if you just want to be totally honest with your new girlfriend (before the other shoe may drop), tell her this girl's claim may be totally untrue, and you're not going to ruin your life by taking her word for something that may not be fact. Again, if this girl can prove it, then you go to Plan B -- but, right now, all she has done is make an accusation that she is obligated to prove true.