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Teen Dates Older Guy
- By Miss Emily
- Published 08/15/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
I'm 16 an i am in love with this 24 year old guy.I know he is old ubt he really loves me and i love him a lot.We have been thru a lot together. We have been together for like 10 months now. But the problem is, i dont get to go out as often becuz of school and my age and, sometimes, this wud bother him cause he wud want to see me. But i tell him the situation. Sometimes he is okay with it then, another, he isn't! I'm thinking to leave the relationship n when im finish school, next year, worry about boys. But i just can't let him go. I'm confused. I love him too much. I always had sex with him, and it's liike we hve a connection. I need ur advice on what to do. Sstay or go?
----------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------
There are problem with having a relationship with a guy this age. He has much more freedom. But he knew what he was getting into when he dated a 16 year old girl. What did he expect, that you could come and go as you pleased, not have the obligations that you do, as well as parental restraints? I wonder why he doesn't see someone his own age, or closer to it. I can understand the allure for you, but not him -- despite the fact that you are probably a really great person. Yes, I think you should let him go. It's too much pressure on you, and you have to think about yourself, your grades and your goals. He certainly isn't more important than you! Also, he has a great deal of sexual freedom, and I don't trust guys to be faithful at his age to a girl 16. I hope you used protection when having sex with him. Not only do you have to worry about getting pregnant, you have to worry about sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). And you don't know if he has any of these. As I said, a 24 year-old guy, for the most part, has a lot more experience, and when seeing a girl your age, I think he'd have a tendency to deceive you in this department. I'm not saying he's a total creep, I just don't know how honorable he is, and I think you should be more cautious than trusting. You, again, are the most important part of the equation here. I care about you, and you should, as well.
----------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------
There are problem with having a relationship with a guy this age. He has much more freedom. But he knew what he was getting into when he dated a 16 year old girl. What did he expect, that you could come and go as you pleased, not have the obligations that you do, as well as parental restraints? I wonder why he doesn't see someone his own age, or closer to it. I can understand the allure for you, but not him -- despite the fact that you are probably a really great person. Yes, I think you should let him go. It's too much pressure on you, and you have to think about yourself, your grades and your goals. He certainly isn't more important than you! Also, he has a great deal of sexual freedom, and I don't trust guys to be faithful at his age to a girl 16. I hope you used protection when having sex with him. Not only do you have to worry about getting pregnant, you have to worry about sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). And you don't know if he has any of these. As I said, a 24 year-old guy, for the most part, has a lot more experience, and when seeing a girl your age, I think he'd have a tendency to deceive you in this department. I'm not saying he's a total creep, I just don't know how honorable he is, and I think you should be more cautious than trusting. You, again, are the most important part of the equation here. I care about you, and you should, as well.
