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Accepting Being" Second Best" In A Relationship
- By Miss Emily
- Published 08/7/2011
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
My boyfriend and I broke up because he was stuck between me and his ex of 3 years. His ex is moving to another state, and he didn't know what to do. Although we were not officially boyfriend and girlfriend, we never stopped kissing, having sex, etc. I found out about 2 months ago that he did indeed cheat with her, and i caught them seeing each other in public. I forgave him, and he has seemed to change since then but I don't know how to trust that he won't cheat on me, again. I recently saw many picture of her naked, them kissing, etc., from a few months ago but that shows me that he did that to me more than once. What do I do?
---------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------
If you have any self-respect, you'll dump him. I hate to be so blunt, but his heart is with her, not you. I can't imagine putting myself in a position of being last night's leftovers to a man who still holds a candle for his ex. He wasn't even willing to make the relationship official with you, and that speaks volumes. You provide the adoration of him, the sex, and all the other outlets he needs, but you're only a substitute for what he doesn't have in his life (her). You have to want more from a relationship than this --but until you're willing to tell yourself you deserve more, you're destined to repeat this mistake time-and-time, again. You're being used, and you're allowing it. At some point, you're going to have to take responsibility for how this has played out. My suggestion is to do it now, for your own sake. Please.
---------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------
If you have any self-respect, you'll dump him. I hate to be so blunt, but his heart is with her, not you. I can't imagine putting myself in a position of being last night's leftovers to a man who still holds a candle for his ex. He wasn't even willing to make the relationship official with you, and that speaks volumes. You provide the adoration of him, the sex, and all the other outlets he needs, but you're only a substitute for what he doesn't have in his life (her). You have to want more from a relationship than this --but until you're willing to tell yourself you deserve more, you're destined to repeat this mistake time-and-time, again. You're being used, and you're allowing it. At some point, you're going to have to take responsibility for how this has played out. My suggestion is to do it now, for your own sake. Please.
