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Move In With Boyfriend?
- By Miss Emily
- Published 08/5/2011
- Relationships - Women
Dear Emily,
I need some advice. I'm a 28 years old (female). I have been living with my brother for the past 6 months. He is 48 years old. I have my boyfriend who lives 1 hour away and he just got a new place. I feel confused on what to do. I would like to live with my bf, but no one in my family can stand him and if I leave my brother behind I would be the "bad guy." I am so confused I don't know what to do. Should I rough things out with my brother and stay here, or do I be honest and move on? NEED HELP!
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------
If you made a commitment to your brother in rent, I would give him a reasonable time limit on finding a roommate, or other housing accommodations. This advice is based on the fact that you love your boyfriend, think that your family is completely wrong in their appraisal of him (?), and you have a right to lead your life the way you see fit -- with apologies to none. At 28, I feel you're old enough to make your own decisions and accept the consequences, don't you? Oh, and make sure you're gainfully employed if you do move. You'd want some financial independence were the tide to shift, and things didn't work out the way you had planned. That's just being smart.
I need some advice. I'm a 28 years old (female). I have been living with my brother for the past 6 months. He is 48 years old. I have my boyfriend who lives 1 hour away and he just got a new place. I feel confused on what to do. I would like to live with my bf, but no one in my family can stand him and if I leave my brother behind I would be the "bad guy." I am so confused I don't know what to do. Should I rough things out with my brother and stay here, or do I be honest and move on? NEED HELP!
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------
If you made a commitment to your brother in rent, I would give him a reasonable time limit on finding a roommate, or other housing accommodations. This advice is based on the fact that you love your boyfriend, think that your family is completely wrong in their appraisal of him (?), and you have a right to lead your life the way you see fit -- with apologies to none. At 28, I feel you're old enough to make your own decisions and accept the consequences, don't you? Oh, and make sure you're gainfully employed if you do move. You'd want some financial independence were the tide to shift, and things didn't work out the way you had planned. That's just being smart.
