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Call Off Wedding?
- By Miss Emily
- Published 08/3/2011
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily,
I have been dating this guy for 3 years and we're geting married in 6 months. Our relationship has reached a stage where he no longer has any sexual interest in me. We are more like friends now than lovers. He is not a very romantic kind of guy, whereas I am. I have tried discussing these problems with him but he has no answers and says "I dont know" to every question. I feel like calling off my wedding. Please advice me if I should and if so what's the best way to do it.
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------
I think you have good reason to call off your wedding. Sexual compatibility is an extremely important aspect of a marital partnership and "I don't know" just doesn't cut it. He has to know before you commit to him. Were it possible to seek couples counseling to resolve your differences, I would strongly encourage it. He should not be allowed to ignore your wishes for a fulfilling sexual life with him. Do not, and I repeat, do not marry this man until you get this issue, and any other issues you have with him settled. To do otherwise, would be tantamount to signing divorce papers on the same day as your wedding. The best way to call off a wedding is by not dragging your feet. The longer you wait, the more apt you are to follow through. This is your life we're talking about, and this has to be addressed now. It's imperative that you make your demands known, and if they are not met with reasonable solutions, the wedding is off -- end of discussion.
I have been dating this guy for 3 years and we're geting married in 6 months. Our relationship has reached a stage where he no longer has any sexual interest in me. We are more like friends now than lovers. He is not a very romantic kind of guy, whereas I am. I have tried discussing these problems with him but he has no answers and says "I dont know" to every question. I feel like calling off my wedding. Please advice me if I should and if so what's the best way to do it.
-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------
I think you have good reason to call off your wedding. Sexual compatibility is an extremely important aspect of a marital partnership and "I don't know" just doesn't cut it. He has to know before you commit to him. Were it possible to seek couples counseling to resolve your differences, I would strongly encourage it. He should not be allowed to ignore your wishes for a fulfilling sexual life with him. Do not, and I repeat, do not marry this man until you get this issue, and any other issues you have with him settled. To do otherwise, would be tantamount to signing divorce papers on the same day as your wedding. The best way to call off a wedding is by not dragging your feet. The longer you wait, the more apt you are to follow through. This is your life we're talking about, and this has to be addressed now. It's imperative that you make your demands known, and if they are not met with reasonable solutions, the wedding is off -- end of discussion.
