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Marriage Isn't An Amusement Park Ride!
- By Miss Emily
- Published 07/28/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
Should I marry a boy who is crazy about me? He was my best friend's boyfriend. and he will love her forever and can not forget her, but he is now crazy about me and he is asking me to marry him. I am worried and confused because i was also in a relationship for last six years and he knew about it. He is asking me to leave my boyfriend and marry him, but I'm very worried because we will hurt so many people if we marry.But he is very nice with me, and guarantees me that he will keep me happy always. There is another problem, too, that he has some serious medical problems which might lead to death soon. Should I still marry him, because he is crazy about me. please help me?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------
No, do not marry him. In your e-mail you told me many reasons why you should not even consider such an impulsive move. Marriage is a serious thing, not something that is done with the incredible doubt you have. I'm stunned that you would even consider such a thing. This boy (or man) has told you he loves his ex, your girlfriend, but he loves you, as well? When you marry, someday, this is what you must have to make it a success. Trust, respect, commitment, common interests and values, and open communication -- and the maturity to make it work. It's a partnership, not a ride at Disneyland! Somewhere down the road, I'm not saying that something couldn't happen between you and him that would be truly meaningful, but this is too much, too soon, and you know it.
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------
No, do not marry him. In your e-mail you told me many reasons why you should not even consider such an impulsive move. Marriage is a serious thing, not something that is done with the incredible doubt you have. I'm stunned that you would even consider such a thing. This boy (or man) has told you he loves his ex, your girlfriend, but he loves you, as well? When you marry, someday, this is what you must have to make it a success. Trust, respect, commitment, common interests and values, and open communication -- and the maturity to make it work. It's a partnership, not a ride at Disneyland! Somewhere down the road, I'm not saying that something couldn't happen between you and him that would be truly meaningful, but this is too much, too soon, and you know it.
