Dear Miss Emily:

I have a question. I have a guy I am interested in at church. He is divorced for 3 years. I have known him over a year. I found out he was looking up my Mylife profile a few times, and he is shy so I started to reach out to him about a month ago. Things seemed to be going along in that we emailed and talked more. He brought a older lady friend of his to church the other day, and I know them casually, so I thought I would ask to sit with them at church. When I asked how her trip to see her family was, the next thing I knew the guy said "I would like some space. Can you give me some space? So I moved.  I am not sure if this is due to things moving too fast ,or him feeling pressured, or because I did this when his friend was around. I emailed him an apology but have not seen him yet .I will see him at small group bible-study. I am frustrated and not sure what to think since has a tendency to clam up. I am attracted to him, but if he is not to me, I'd rather just be friends and accept it.  How should I handle this situation. I need to know either way?

----------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------

This guy was totally inappropriate. What he did was exceedingly rude to you. You owed him no apology for being friendly. I think this man has some "issues" and I wonder if this red flag is something you should heed in a big way. If this were me, I'd be cordial, but no more. It is he who owes you an apology, and if you don't get one, I'd consider myself lucky that you found out he lacks the filter that tells him when to be polite. It just goes to show, people are people wherever you go -- church, school, clubs, you name it. Be careful with this one. I see trouble.