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From: Noemi <caged_forever_94@yahoo.com>
To: emily@askmissemily.com
Sent: Wednesday, July 13, 2011 10:11 PM
Subject: Contact Form Message

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Dear Miss Emily:

I'm 16 years old and am going into senior year. (female) At the start of my junior year, I met with one of my ex boyfriends, and he was an ex because we dated a year before he told me he loved me but, than, he left me to be with another girl. When we met again (again, start of my junior year) he said he was single because the girl he left me for left him to be with another guy. (karma!). Anyway, the same day he asked me out, and I said yes because I give people second chances. Oh, and he's 14 going into sophmore year. Well, he lives in Chicago and I live in Indiana. So we barely saw each other but kept our phone calls and texts strong. We loved each other. Or so I thought. But than after 5 wonderful months, he stopped talking to me. Completely. I tried calling and  texting, but nothing! I asked my friend to call him and sure enough he answered. After I found out he was ignoring me, I just texted him a simple 'bye' and I guess that was it. And now I've been a total wreck because it's been 6 months since that happened, and I'm still hurting and crying over him. I know I shouldn't but I just do... I've recently found out that be has a new girlfriend too. They've been dating for a month already. Well, at least I know that he left me because I was boring instead of leaving me for another girl again? Ahh, I really don't know what I should do to feel better because I really want to talk to him and see what the heck happened. I've missed him so much that the word love tastes bitter in my mouth. And whenever someone touches me, I pull them away and freak out because it reminds me of how he held me. Please help? :(

--------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------

The distance between you and him, and the age difference is not a winning combination. You are not boring, he's simply all over the map on what he wants, and when someone else comes into his life it makes it easier for him to walk away. That doesn't say anything about you, it only shows his immaturity, and inability to be forthcoming with you. The teen years are fickle years, and many teens go from one relationship to the next, without the thought of the damage they leave behind. It's a selfish age. Of course, it's cowardice of him to not keep you undated on what's going on in his life but, again, it often goes with the territory. Listen, he lives in another state, and you're two years his senior. I do not discount the fact that you had great love for him, but you're selling yourself short if you don't think you have a life without him. He has shown his true colors, now. He's in a relationship, and he's chosen to ignore you. I'd be more angry than hurt. But lesson learned on the ways of love, deception, and human nature, in general. Please do not see this as a failing on your part. It isn't. The distance between you and him has finally proved to be too great. It's been many months since this happened and, although you feel you don't have closure on this, it's time to come to the understanding that your life is important, and your success and happiness cannot be determined by this one boy.