Dear Miss Emily:
Okay, so excuse my lack of punctuation marks but im not in the mood to type correctly. me and my girlfriend of 1 year and 7 months broke up recently she says she wants to be single. a couple days before that she tried to take a break with me and i started crying and stuff saying we dont need to and all that she started crying too saying that i dont like her and i hate certain things about her.in the end we agreed to take a week off from talking to each other.i couldnt do that so i called her and she told me then that she wants to be single. since then ive realized that i was dependent on her emotionally and that i never wanted to anything without her because she made me happy and  if she didnt talk to me i didnt want anything. i recently told her how i really feel and how basically i dont need her to make me happy and im my own independent man and how i know that i was clingy and i made it feel like we were like an old married couple that never did anything and all we did was sexually things and i apologized but said that it doesnt mean i dont love you and want to be with you. but she said  "i still want to be single probably further on i would want the same as you do if your still single and wanna be with me then ill wanna be with you too but right now i like being single" and after that i asked her to promise me atleast when you decide you dont want to be single that you tell me first and she promised me that. i dont know what to do after this :( in time would she come back?

-------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------

Your impatience in not using punctuation marks is a sign you need more work! I applaud your revelation about being clingy. That's a step in the right direction. But, right now, there seems to be too much water under the bridge, and the sump pump hasn't done it's job in clearing it away. There is a history, and it's hard to accept, "But I've changed in a week, so do you want to start fresh?" Your heart's in the right place, but she simply wants to be single. Can you try, again? It's possible, but I wouldn't hold my breath, and I don't want to give you false hope. If, indeed, you truly have changed your attitude about how to be in a relationship -- a whole man who is secure with himself --  now is the time to tap into those feelings. The right approach is to show her that you are that "new guy" and not continually try to convince her of that, because it speaks of old habits. Be a friend, but don't promote yourself. If she thinks there is something worth pursuing with you a second time, she will let you know. For now, follow her lead. Be single, and use your new independence to a better understanding of yourself. You''ll never regret finding new insight to make you the best you can be.