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He Wants Fun With No Commitment
- By Miss Emily
- Published 07/7/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
I am 17 and about to be a senior in high school. I have liked this boy since the 7th grade, but never knew how he felt. Last summer he told me he liked me but I had a boyfriend at the time. He then got a girlfriend. Me and my boyfriend broke up then him and his girlfriend broke up a few months after. We hung out a few times when bored went to the movies or he came to my house. I finally asked him if he was into me at all and he said he wasn't looking for a relationship and just wanted to have fun. I said ok and got over it. A few days ago, he snuck out of his house and came to hang out with me. We hung out for about 5 hours and when we were alone he finally kissed me. I have been waiting to kiss him for about 5 years. He kissed me so cute-like. No guy has ever kissed me so romantically. It was like we were dating. We made out and hands went places for almost 2 hours. I took him home and haven't talked to him about it or anything since. I don't know if he was just making out with me for fun, for something to do or if he feels the way i do. I dont want to ask him and embarrass myself, again. What did him kissing me mean?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
The kissing means exactly what he said it would mean, he doesn't want a relationship, but wants to have fun. It was not like you were dating, but more like a night-time escapade. Okay, that's fine if you're on board with it, but I think you want more -- like a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship?! And that is why you are the one who has to make the decision on whether you're going to allow him to continue with the sexual activity for fun only, or you won't do it because you know that's all he wants. I think he's attracted to you, but if you really care about him beyond fun, you're going to want to kick yourself for getting too involved with him when he warned you he didn't want a relationship. And you can't end up blaming him, because you woud have allowed it to happen. You're a big girl, and you're not deaf. Go by what he has told you, and not some hope he'll change his mind. Cut out the sex and see if he comes to you for something more meaningful -- were you to really want the answer to whether he's truly in touch with his feelings.
I am 17 and about to be a senior in high school. I have liked this boy since the 7th grade, but never knew how he felt. Last summer he told me he liked me but I had a boyfriend at the time. He then got a girlfriend. Me and my boyfriend broke up then him and his girlfriend broke up a few months after. We hung out a few times when bored went to the movies or he came to my house. I finally asked him if he was into me at all and he said he wasn't looking for a relationship and just wanted to have fun. I said ok and got over it. A few days ago, he snuck out of his house and came to hang out with me. We hung out for about 5 hours and when we were alone he finally kissed me. I have been waiting to kiss him for about 5 years. He kissed me so cute-like. No guy has ever kissed me so romantically. It was like we were dating. We made out and hands went places for almost 2 hours. I took him home and haven't talked to him about it or anything since. I don't know if he was just making out with me for fun, for something to do or if he feels the way i do. I dont want to ask him and embarrass myself, again. What did him kissing me mean?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
The kissing means exactly what he said it would mean, he doesn't want a relationship, but wants to have fun. It was not like you were dating, but more like a night-time escapade. Okay, that's fine if you're on board with it, but I think you want more -- like a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship?! And that is why you are the one who has to make the decision on whether you're going to allow him to continue with the sexual activity for fun only, or you won't do it because you know that's all he wants. I think he's attracted to you, but if you really care about him beyond fun, you're going to want to kick yourself for getting too involved with him when he warned you he didn't want a relationship. And you can't end up blaming him, because you woud have allowed it to happen. You're a big girl, and you're not deaf. Go by what he has told you, and not some hope he'll change his mind. Cut out the sex and see if he comes to you for something more meaningful -- were you to really want the answer to whether he's truly in touch with his feelings.
