I started dating a 30 year old when I was 19 going on 20.  We stayed together for 3 years until he purposely put on facebook and twitter that he was with someone else. And his reason for doing that was to see if I cared. What I don't understand is that weeks after he did that, I didn't hear from him and then all of a sudden he starts calling me and texting me telling me he missed me even though he was with the girl he left me for. I started seeing someone else and learning how to be single, again, but he started telling me he didn't want me to see the guy that cared for me deeply. We got into and argument about it, and I didn't understand why he would care who I was with since he didn't want me. Well, he calls me for 3 months straight even though he is still with his new girlfriend. In January, he quit calling and texting until this April when, out of nowhere, he texts me he is sorry for all the hurt and he hopes to make it up to me. He was telling me how he loves me, still and wants to be with me and he will show me in time his true love for me. But what I don't understand is he says he is not with the girl he left me for, but I find out that he still sees her. Then he says she was a big mistake but still invites her to meet his family, who I have never met in 3 years. And he knows I still love him. I don't know what to do. I meet great guys, but my love for him gets in the way of me moving forward. He lives in So Cal, and I live up north and his girlfriend just moved on the west coast from back east. I try to ignore his phone calls and texts, but my feeling get the best of me and I will end up responding to his texts or answering his calls. I want to be happy and I don't know how to let him go. What do I do?

----------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------

You still have feelings for him, because it wasn't your choice to leave the relationship. But he threw dirt in your face by flaunting a new relationship, yet making up a lame excuse it was only to see if you cared. What? This guy should be a politician. He really talks out of both side of his mouth, and you can't believe anything he says. He had some power over you, and maybe it's because of age -- but now it's time for you to grow up and shake him off like an infestation of fleas. Sure, he remembers the good times he had with the "just out of her teens" girl who practically worshiped him, and he could control to bend to his wishes, but is that what you want to go back to? I feel less sorry for you than the girlfriend who thinks he's faithful, and not hunting down his past girlfriend with apologies, and talk of love. And what kind of guy does that? Oh, I remember, the kind of guy who wrote on facebook and twitter that he was with someone else and, then, lies to you that it was basically your fault because he wasn't sure how you felt about him! The fact he didn't introduce you to his parents speaks volumes. It was either the age difference, or he didn't think you measured up. Get real, and get rid of him, once and for all.