Emily,

Hi, I'm really frustrated and confused with my boyfriend. We've only been together 2 months. I know its pretty new, but it still hurts me. So lately, he doesnt have time for me anymore. He's always busy working and practicing for water polo. He's leaving in a couple of months for college, and its depressing me to know that he doesn't seem to care that he's going to leave me behind. I feel like he doesn't care anymore. He used to be always there for me; make time to see and texts me whenever he can. But now that we graduated, he seems so out of reach all the time. I know I'm suppose to be there and understand him, but it's just too difficult when he doesn't seem to care as much as I do. I really don't know what to do at this point. please help me out! :(

------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------

I think it's possible, without him saying it, or maybe being wholly cognizant of it, that he knows he's leaving for college, the relationship will have difficulty staying together, and he's separating himself as a way of dealing with the inevitable. That said, he is working, and has water polo, and there's only so many hours in a day! But he could keep in touch, make plans to see you when he's not tied up but, from what you have said, hasn't made a real attempt to do so. I would gain the courage to ask him for a heart-to-heart talk. But in the end, if he can't be completely be honest with you, or make an effort to see his "girlfriend," I would judge him by his actions. He's not there for you, you are hurting and, as painful as it is, it's better to find out now than twist-in-the-wind until he goes off the college. You want to have a good time this summer, and if not with him, with your friends -- and maybe a new relationship with a guy who can "belly up to the bar" and take his girlfriend on a date, now and then. Geez!