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Affiar With Married Man
- By Miss Emily
- Published 06/20/2011
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
I'm dating a maried man he's 46 im 28. We've been dating since last year, March. This year, February, his wife caught us but this man chose me over her. She even organized a meeting with their elders but stil it didn't work -- he's stil with me. What confuses me is he sleeps at my place, everyday, and goes to his place every morning to prepare himself to go to work. Im worried that he wil go back to his family and leave me with a broken heart. Should bow out, or stay in this relationship. Please help.
---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------
Many a scorned ex will take back her husband if given a chance, and there is always that hanging in the air. I don't think you'll ever truly be sure that he is yours, for keeps, unless he can divorce her wife and make a clean break of it. I assume, when you said you are afraid he may return to family, he has children. That is another hook in a potential reunion down the road. I do understand your concern, and it is legitimate. Anyone who isn't able to make a full commitment to one person, is subject to changing his (or her) mind. As long as you know this, you can prepare yourself for that possible turn of events. I'm not sure it would do any good for you to ask him to make a commitment to you, in all ways, but you could try. Consider the answers if you do. Hopefully, you'd be able to discern the difference between stalling, and legitimate reasons, if any. In time, however, you may have to make the decision to leave him if the status quo remains just that.
I'm dating a maried man he's 46 im 28. We've been dating since last year, March. This year, February, his wife caught us but this man chose me over her. She even organized a meeting with their elders but stil it didn't work -- he's stil with me. What confuses me is he sleeps at my place, everyday, and goes to his place every morning to prepare himself to go to work. Im worried that he wil go back to his family and leave me with a broken heart. Should bow out, or stay in this relationship. Please help.
---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------
Many a scorned ex will take back her husband if given a chance, and there is always that hanging in the air. I don't think you'll ever truly be sure that he is yours, for keeps, unless he can divorce her wife and make a clean break of it. I assume, when you said you are afraid he may return to family, he has children. That is another hook in a potential reunion down the road. I do understand your concern, and it is legitimate. Anyone who isn't able to make a full commitment to one person, is subject to changing his (or her) mind. As long as you know this, you can prepare yourself for that possible turn of events. I'm not sure it would do any good for you to ask him to make a commitment to you, in all ways, but you could try. Consider the answers if you do. Hopefully, you'd be able to discern the difference between stalling, and legitimate reasons, if any. In time, however, you may have to make the decision to leave him if the status quo remains just that.
