- Home
- Relationships - Men
- Crazy About Him Doesn't Cut It
Crazy About Him Doesn't Cut It
- By Miss Emily
- Published 06/15/2011
- Relationships - Men
Dear Miss Emily:
Okay, I've been dating this girl for over a year now and have never connected with anyone like I have with her in my entire life. We are both 22 and looking for the same things in life. A few months ago, I told her that I was in love with her, but she didn't feel the same way yet, and has tried making herself because she wants to. Wel, just the other day she said the problem was she didnt know if he could spend the rest of her life with me but, at the same, she is telling me that she cares about me more than anything, is crazy about me and that i have been the best boyfriend she has ever had and is so thankful for everything i have done for her. I would do anything for this girl, and I want this to work. What should do because I have tried everything?
---------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
Stop the campaign. You've already twisted yourself into a pretzel trying to get her to love you. You've been loyal, attentive, loving, caring, generous, thoughtful, a good friend, respectful and accommodating - what's left, a leg? Listen, she told you she's crazy about you (you're a great guy!), but it's not "true love," and she doesn't see long-term. I don't know how much more clear she has to say it. I would take any urgency out of your effort and let this relationship coast for a while. In time, you'll know, for sure, where you and she are headed. There should be no talk of a future, or anything like marriage. That hinders any development, and it has the cart before the horse. If you don't appear needy, or desperate for her love, and you relax and enjoy the relationship, perhaps things will improve. It may not end up the way you hope but, at least, you'll leave with your integrity intact. Prove to her that you are a strong, capable man, and your life won't implode if she walks out of it. Of course it would hurt, matters of the heart are often fraught with pain.
---------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
Stop the campaign. You've already twisted yourself into a pretzel trying to get her to love you. You've been loyal, attentive, loving, caring, generous, thoughtful, a good friend, respectful and accommodating - what's left, a leg? Listen, she told you she's crazy about you (you're a great guy!), but it's not "true love," and she doesn't see long-term. I don't know how much more clear she has to say it. I would take any urgency out of your effort and let this relationship coast for a while. In time, you'll know, for sure, where you and she are headed. There should be no talk of a future, or anything like marriage. That hinders any development, and it has the cart before the horse. If you don't appear needy, or desperate for her love, and you relax and enjoy the relationship, perhaps things will improve. It may not end up the way you hope but, at least, you'll leave with your integrity intact. Prove to her that you are a strong, capable man, and your life won't implode if she walks out of it. Of course it would hurt, matters of the heart are often fraught with pain.
