Dear Miss Emily:

Quick background: My ex and I dated for about 3 years and broke up with me 2 months ago. Almost immediately, she started seeing someone else. I tried the whole get back together thing at first but realized it was worthless and gave her space. Then randomly, a few weeks ago, I noticed I had been removed from all social networks she was on. I emailed and asked why, and she responded with stating she didn't like seeing me single and told me she didn't want to talk to me. Yesterday, I get an IM her after no communication and just made small talk. It was the first conversation we have had since the breakup that didn't involve discussing our relationship and it was nice. We kind of just caught up but, now, I find myself grabbing onto hope, again, and I'm pretty sure she is still dating this guy. The conversation ended with me telling her I was busy and had to go, no fighting and nothing negative. My question is why would she contact me after telling me she didn't want to talk to me, and what should I take this contact as? Should I contact her, again, or just wait until she does again?

---------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------

It appears she can't let go, and it may be for several reasons, or just one. She left you for another guy, but I do think she cares about you. Does she want you back?  Well, I wouldn't make that leap just yet. I would keep reminding myself that she is with someone else and, until she lets go of him, try to keep thoughts of rekindling this relationship to a minimum. You can be chatty with her if she IMs you, again, but make correspondence infrequent. I am sure she knows you still love her, but if she truly cares about you and your feelings, she won't use you to placate her indecisive mind, or a guilt trip for letting you go.