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Dad Catches Teen In Lie
- By Miss Emily
- Published 06/12/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
I'm 17, and yesterday I went over to my boyfriend's house and lied and told my parents I was at my friend's house. Well my dad caught me and took my phone. He read through my texts and found out that I've tried marijuana before. Now he's convinced that I'm a drug addict, and a whore and I live this whole double life. He's pretty much made my house a prison. He's making me quit both of my jobs, and selling my car and talking about making me move in with my mom who lives in a different state. What should I do? I'm so flustered.
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
I am so sorry. We so often are careless, especially about our cell phones and rarely delete the things that can so easily be read by others. Lesson learned on that score, I hope. The threat to banish you to your mother's is a common one when a parent wants to punish a child for bad behavior. I don't know if you have a plan for college, but let's hope that's in the cards. There you will have the opportunity to plan your future to be an independent, and contented indiividual. But you can't un-ring this bell, and there's no magic potion to fix, the fix you are in. I would appeal to your father that keeping your jobs are part of what responsibility is all about, and to punish you in this way is counterproductive to what he wants for you. I hope he understands this to be true, because that is one of the ways that you have been responsible. If he allows you to keep your jobs, or even if he doesn't, try to play by his rules for a while. It serves no purpose to rebel, because you father will only dig in his heels. In time, I suspect he will ease up on you. I feel for you, but you now know there can be extreme consequences for your actions.
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
I am so sorry. We so often are careless, especially about our cell phones and rarely delete the things that can so easily be read by others. Lesson learned on that score, I hope. The threat to banish you to your mother's is a common one when a parent wants to punish a child for bad behavior. I don't know if you have a plan for college, but let's hope that's in the cards. There you will have the opportunity to plan your future to be an independent, and contented indiividual. But you can't un-ring this bell, and there's no magic potion to fix, the fix you are in. I would appeal to your father that keeping your jobs are part of what responsibility is all about, and to punish you in this way is counterproductive to what he wants for you. I hope he understands this to be true, because that is one of the ways that you have been responsible. If he allows you to keep your jobs, or even if he doesn't, try to play by his rules for a while. It serves no purpose to rebel, because you father will only dig in his heels. In time, I suspect he will ease up on you. I feel for you, but you now know there can be extreme consequences for your actions.
