Dear Miss Emily:
Me and my ex broke up just a few months ago. We had a very strong relationship, leading back to the 5
th
grade. We are both 16, she has been dating, I have not what so ever
because I do still have serious feelings for her, and for the past few
weeks we have been having usual conversations so
I've
been hiding it. She had an altercation at her job back home in a very
small town, so she quit and needs to find work. I moved to a larger
city with just me and my mother and my ex asked me if she would be able
to move in with me. Of course, I accept and my mother does as well. I
was very excited at first, picturing the typical romance movie scenario
where we both get back together happily ever after and all that bull
****, but now iv realized how far she has drifted and the
likelihood
of her returning to me seems dreadfully slim. That doesn't happen to be
the only reason I agreed to let her stay the summer because I would
always do all I can for her regardless, but I don't know how to deal
with her living under the same roof. Especially how shes wanting to date
other people while staying with me and gets angry at me for asking her
not to talk about it around me. I cant turn her back because she already
quit her job. What can I do to make this work smoothly for both of
us?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------
You have a
big heart, and so does your mother! What you have to do is be honest
with her about your feelings. Then, you set some boundaries with her. If
taking about other guys turns your stomach, tell her you'd rather not
hear about her love life.
But take responsibility for the choice you made here. You are allowing
her to come visit, and with that comes the friend of yours since 5th
grade. There is a closeness you and she have, and that cannot be
denied. That said, there are limits. I think it's wise for you to spread
your wings, as well, and not put too much stock into rekindling your
relationship with her. It could happen, but you and she broke up for a
reason, and it would be a good idea to be mindful of that. I don't envy
your position, but matters of the heart are often fraught with heartache. Apparently, you are getting a whopping dose of that axiom.
