So, I have been dating my boyfriend for about 9 months.  I recently just bought a condo.  I love it, and he has moved in. We never had the move in discussion.  He had been staying over almost every night, and when I moved into my new place he moved in a few of his things. I love him very much.  He is very kind, sweet, and a good man.  I am very happy with him. So, here is the problem.  We are both in our early 20s.  I have a very steady job and am able to pay the bills on my own.  However, paying all the bills alone leaves me basically no fun money.  He is still in college, part time, and working a job that pays ten bucks an hour.  He works about 30 hours a week.  I am starting to get a bit upset that he is not contributing to the bills at all.  He does pay part of the grocery bill, but that's it.  I am not sure what I should expect of him.  Should I just tell him to pay? Or should I ask what he can afford to pay? We are very happy and I don't want to create drama, but I am starting to resent that he doesn't help out.  What advice can you give? How should I talk with him about this?

---------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------

Thirty hours a week, at ten dollars an hour, should be enough to help with more than part of the grocery bill. He seems like a great guy in many ways, but he should not take advantage of what you have to offer without exhibiting some integrity by paying more on his share of expenses. But you know, people get away with what others allow and, because you haven't said anything to him, he seems to think there's no problem. But if you want to have a long-term relationship with him that can lead to marriage (guessing on that, of course), you can't be afraid to talk to him about these matters. There's no easy way to say this to him, and he may get defensive,  but I would tell him you need to have a talk about finances -- and then show him your cost to run a household. Ask him if he can do more to help pay for some of the expenses. He doesn't seem to be a slacker if he works, and is going to school -- and he may have heavy school fees -- but you feel there's an inequity in this living arrangement, and it's right, and fair for him to pay more than he is if he has it. Ending up resentful will only spoil the relationship, and you need to get this cleared up to your satisfaction.