Dear Miss Emily:
Last year we
(fiance and me) bought a house, and it just so happens we got new renters that brought the wife's
best friend Well, she and my fiance became, I believe, more than friends. I have
expressed my dislike, and he says nothing is going on -- but I beg to differ. He is
calling her, she calls him, and I am sick over this. Please help, and thank you.
----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
Hold off on marrying a man who has frequent correspondence with a single woman, and he tells you, "Nothing
is going on." Now you must tell him, "Okay, if nothing is going on, you shouldn't have a problem
with ending the relationship (all correspondence), because you're sensitive to
my feelings -- the person who should come first in your life." Please make that clear to
him. If he doesn't understand, tell him that's a shame, but you do, and end
plans to marry a man who, more than likely is smitten with this woman. There's no problem with having a friend of the opposite sex, but it should be inclusive.This is a red
flag, and you need keep your eyes and ears open on this one. An ultimatum, in this case, may be
warranted. "End it, or we end."