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Teen Relationship Heartbreak
- By Miss Emily
- Published 05/16/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
Hi I'm18 years
old I had a 0NE IN A MILLI0N B0YFRIEND, LITERALLY. He is 22. We went through major problems with my father
to be together. He fought and never gave up as i was 15 at the time,
and he was 19, and my father didnt approve. We finally got legal after 8 months and had an
amazing truly fairytale relationship,until his father passed away. He was still
trying, but somehow he ended up playing me for 2 weeks in the
end of the relationship with a 29 year old woman who has a child. I was his angel, and now he doesn't even remember our love. It's been 9months since we are not
together anymore, and even to this day i
cannot get over
him -- even after he hurt me! I cry and miss him all the time! What do i do? I
even tried getting through to him via phone calls, or a
friend, but nothing helps. We dated for 3 years. How could he throw that away for a
2 week relationship? He is still with that woman.
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
I feel for you, because you spent a solid block of your teen years with him and, for all intents and purposes, he watched your back and was loyal to a fault. But people can change their feelings, no matter what circumstance they're in, and it appears that happened in this case. I don't think he made a complete 180 within a two week period but, rather, had uneasy feelings about the relationship quite a while before -- and ,then, the opportunity presented itself to be with this woman. Whatever her draw, he's with her, now, has been for a while, and he wants no contact with you. Certainly, a good part of the reason is that his new girlfriend would go ballistic if he had any type of correspondence with his ex. I know you pine for him, but you're going to have to face that he's moved on -- and so must you. If you stay mired in this emotional pain, it serves no purpose other than to stall your recovery from this major heartbreak. In order to heal, you must look to the future, not stay mired in the past, and open yourself up to new experiences. I am sure this is not what you want to read, but there is someone who has much to offer if you allow him into your life. Your ex was like a family member to you, as well, and it's like having an appendage removed when he left your life - -and so abruptly. But it happened, it's time to face it, and let yourself off the hook. You did nothing wrong.
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
I feel for you, because you spent a solid block of your teen years with him and, for all intents and purposes, he watched your back and was loyal to a fault. But people can change their feelings, no matter what circumstance they're in, and it appears that happened in this case. I don't think he made a complete 180 within a two week period but, rather, had uneasy feelings about the relationship quite a while before -- and ,then, the opportunity presented itself to be with this woman. Whatever her draw, he's with her, now, has been for a while, and he wants no contact with you. Certainly, a good part of the reason is that his new girlfriend would go ballistic if he had any type of correspondence with his ex. I know you pine for him, but you're going to have to face that he's moved on -- and so must you. If you stay mired in this emotional pain, it serves no purpose other than to stall your recovery from this major heartbreak. In order to heal, you must look to the future, not stay mired in the past, and open yourself up to new experiences. I am sure this is not what you want to read, but there is someone who has much to offer if you allow him into your life. Your ex was like a family member to you, as well, and it's like having an appendage removed when he left your life - -and so abruptly. But it happened, it's time to face it, and let yourself off the hook. You did nothing wrong.
