Dear Miss Emily:

I need help; I don't know what to do. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year, but most of that year I have been in Afghanistan. I'm going to be going home this month, but last week me and my girlfriend broke up for two days and ,then, got back together. We were just made at each other. While we were "off" for those two days, she slept with this guy she used to mess around with, but she says she's sorry and wants to make it work. I love her with all my heart and want to make it work. Is it right to take her back and do I have the right to be mad?

---------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------

I think you have a right to be hurt.  What she did was thoughtless, selfish, and insensitive.  But, of course, this kind of thing happens in real life. I don't think you should end the relationship while you're still in Afghanistan, but see how things go when you get back. There's nothing that says you have to stay together, but a break-up, from your end, would probably put you in a bigger funk than you're already in, and you don't need that now. Be strong around her, and let her know this can't happen again.  If this relationship is going to work when you get home, you'll have to forgive her this indiscretion. If not, you'll resent her, and that eats like a cancer. Again, wait and see what happens when you get home. You've had little face-time with her, and being home will make, or break this relationship.