Dear Miss Emily:

 I am 29 years old. A little over two years ago, I discovered my husband was having an affair. Four days after I found out, he was arrested for probation violation and sent to prison for a year. I then foolishly began my own affair and got pregnant. Since I do not believe in abortion I had to confess my affair and pregnancy. I was five months pregnant when my husband was released. I cut off all contact with my lover and my husband surprisingly accepted my child as his own. He is the only father my son knows and he is a wonderful father at that. I quickly became pregnant again (by my husband this time) and gave birth to another son five weeks ago. My problem is my husband is having inappropriate conversations with other women constantly. I read his emails and texts and he is telling these women that we are separated because I cheated on him and had another man's baby. He says we only slept together once and thats why i just had his baby. When i confronted him, he says its nothing and none of these relationships are sexual. But i called one woman and she told me they had sex while I was in the hospital. She knew what day the baby was born and when I came home. Our son was premature and spent ten days in the NICU at a hospital an hour away. This woman knew every time i visited the baby without my husband. He admitted to spending the night with her while i was in the hospital but says he was so drunk he fell asleep on the couch and nothing happened. I think he is cheating with several women and using my past affair to justify his actions. What do I do?

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I think he's cheating on you and doesn't need an excuse to do it. He did it prior to your affair. There is such a thing as "serial cheaters." No matter how often they get caught, they lie, or even have to confess if something major happens that they cannot hide, but they usually say it won't happen again. But, of course, it does. He was even so arrogant, or stupid, as to leave the evidence in plain sight! You are in a huge bind (an understatement),  and my heart goes out to you. I would suggest marriage counseling, but I'm not sure you'd benefit with this guy other than to realize you're married to an imposter. Having another baby makes this equally hard for you. It's not as if you can just pull up stakes and plan a new life in the next few months with all you have on your plate. I'd live as roommates for as long as i could and, then, decide what I was going to do about this relationship. You either accept his infidelity, and the fact that he hasn't forgiven you for having another man's child, or you file for divorce once you've had time to organize your life. At your age, you shouldn't have to settle for a life like this one. Even if he were capable of being faithful, one day, how long can you wait for something that may never happen? And beside that, how much hostility will grow during the process? I am so sorry that I can't give you better news. My advice would be start practicing birth control. You can't afford to get pregnant, again, and be in an even greater fix than you're already in.