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Teen's Ex Wants Redo
- By Miss Emily
- Published 05/8/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
So I'm a teenager, and I know that I probably dont knnow a lot about love and all. but I was dating this guy for 7 months. He was perfect in my eyes for a while, until all we did was fight. Every time I told him that something he did bothered me, he either made an excuse or said sorry and didnt change anything. -- so we broke up. It was hard for both of us. But when I assumed that he didnt care, I tried moving on. His old best friend started talking to me. He's an amazing guy too. I started liking him, and we started dating. My ex was furious but, recently, I found out that my ex hooked up with this giirl 2 days after we broke up. i remember crying myself to sleep that night, and knowing he was doing that makes me angry. He has tried to get me back and, now, Ii think I like him again. But I'm dating his old best friend. I dont know what to do. I know I shouldnt like him, but i'ts hard for me. He's the first guy to ever make me feel like this.... help?
----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
The" first love" is hard to get over, sometimes, and you can feel as if you left some unfinished business. Most often, though, it's nothing more than not being able to accept the fact you couldn't make it work together for valid reasons. You fought with him, wanting him to change, and that was your first mistake. It's all right to ask someone to be more considerate, but to change his (her) basic nature is next to impossible and only causes relationship friction. He has to want to change, because it would simply be better for him. His old friend dating you, more than likely, bruised his ego -- but that is not a reason to get back with him. Think long and hard about the relationship you had with him, and why it didn't work out. It's hard to go back into a relationship you once had and create a new dynamic . If you like the guy you're with, don't throw him to the wolves for something that may be a pipe dream. It's flattering to know this ex wants you back, but it isn't going to work if it's based on his jealousy, and you being flattered.
So I'm a teenager, and I know that I probably dont knnow a lot about love and all. but I was dating this guy for 7 months. He was perfect in my eyes for a while, until all we did was fight. Every time I told him that something he did bothered me, he either made an excuse or said sorry and didnt change anything. -- so we broke up. It was hard for both of us. But when I assumed that he didnt care, I tried moving on. His old best friend started talking to me. He's an amazing guy too. I started liking him, and we started dating. My ex was furious but, recently, I found out that my ex hooked up with this giirl 2 days after we broke up. i remember crying myself to sleep that night, and knowing he was doing that makes me angry. He has tried to get me back and, now, Ii think I like him again. But I'm dating his old best friend. I dont know what to do. I know I shouldnt like him, but i'ts hard for me. He's the first guy to ever make me feel like this.... help?
----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
The" first love" is hard to get over, sometimes, and you can feel as if you left some unfinished business. Most often, though, it's nothing more than not being able to accept the fact you couldn't make it work together for valid reasons. You fought with him, wanting him to change, and that was your first mistake. It's all right to ask someone to be more considerate, but to change his (her) basic nature is next to impossible and only causes relationship friction. He has to want to change, because it would simply be better for him. His old friend dating you, more than likely, bruised his ego -- but that is not a reason to get back with him. Think long and hard about the relationship you had with him, and why it didn't work out. It's hard to go back into a relationship you once had and create a new dynamic . If you like the guy you're with, don't throw him to the wolves for something that may be a pipe dream. It's flattering to know this ex wants you back, but it isn't going to work if it's based on his jealousy, and you being flattered.
