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Relationship Counseling His Way!
- By Miss Emily
- Published 05/7/2011
- Relationships - Women
Hi Miss Emily,
I was with my ex for 5 years, and we have a 2 year old daughter. We were constantly fighting, and had become more like roommates than boyfriend and girlfriend, so we decided to separate. The plan was to take a year apart and work on our issues and, then, go to counseling. He now has a girlfriend he has been with for 6 or 7 months, yet tells me that he still loves me and wants to work it out for our family. Here's the problem - we want to go to counseling to see if our relationship can be saved, but he doesn't want to break up with his girlfriend until he feels like the counseling is doing us some good -- and that our relationship can be saved. This doesn't sit well with me. I'm torn because I want us to go ahead with the counseling, but just don't feel like he is committed enough if he holds on to his girlfriend. Any advice in this situation would be greatly appreciated!
-----------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
You should go to counseling, and leave him out of it. He's hedging his bets, and that's not an emotional commitment, it's a Wall Street tactic. If he can't sever ties with his girlfriend, he's not going to be fully engaged in working on this relationship. His approach does not speak well of him.
I was with my ex for 5 years, and we have a 2 year old daughter. We were constantly fighting, and had become more like roommates than boyfriend and girlfriend, so we decided to separate. The plan was to take a year apart and work on our issues and, then, go to counseling. He now has a girlfriend he has been with for 6 or 7 months, yet tells me that he still loves me and wants to work it out for our family. Here's the problem - we want to go to counseling to see if our relationship can be saved, but he doesn't want to break up with his girlfriend until he feels like the counseling is doing us some good -- and that our relationship can be saved. This doesn't sit well with me. I'm torn because I want us to go ahead with the counseling, but just don't feel like he is committed enough if he holds on to his girlfriend. Any advice in this situation would be greatly appreciated!
-----------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
You should go to counseling, and leave him out of it. He's hedging his bets, and that's not an emotional commitment, it's a Wall Street tactic. If he can't sever ties with his girlfriend, he's not going to be fully engaged in working on this relationship. His approach does not speak well of him.
