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Fiance Wants Sex -- With Someone Else!
- By Miss Emily
- Published 05/5/2011
- Relationships - Women
Hey Emily,
I am 21 years old and I have been dating my fiance for over a year now and we are very much in love. The only problem we ever have is when he loses his temper, he doesn't physically abuse or anything. But we got in an argument, today, a rather nasty one and we broke up...then, after talking it out, we laid all our cards on the table. My boyfriend told me he has urges to sleep with other women. He's been trying to get to have a threesome for a while, and I just can't do it. He said he would never cheat...what do you think?
-------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
I think this relationship is in serious trouble, and I believe it has little to do with you. He has anger issues, and he's as much told you that you're not enough for him unless he has sex with another woman -- but you can jump on-board with a threesome if you'd like! Gee, with an offer like that, who needs monogamy? You seem like a sweet person, but now is the time to use your head and tell him this threesome thing is not in the cards, and if he wants to be with other women "knock yourself out." And if he chooses that path, you're going to set him free and consider yourself lucky you found out about this before you walked down the isle. Planning marriage at your age is risky, these days, because we're living a lot longer and many people want more experience before settling down. We no longer marry just to conjoin farms! It seems you and he jumped the gun on "forever" because you two don't see eye-to-eye. Break up with him, and let him do what he has to do -- or head directly to a couple's counselor. You may love each other -- but sometimes love simply isn't enough. His idea of commitment, is you being committed to his ideas. His anger issue is something that also needs to be addressed in earnest. That, alone, is reason to hold off any marriage until he gets to the bottom of why he loses control. It may be immaturity but, many times, it goes much deeper than that. To ignore it would be at your peril.
I am 21 years old and I have been dating my fiance for over a year now and we are very much in love. The only problem we ever have is when he loses his temper, he doesn't physically abuse or anything. But we got in an argument, today, a rather nasty one and we broke up...then, after talking it out, we laid all our cards on the table. My boyfriend told me he has urges to sleep with other women. He's been trying to get to have a threesome for a while, and I just can't do it. He said he would never cheat...what do you think?
-------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------
I think this relationship is in serious trouble, and I believe it has little to do with you. He has anger issues, and he's as much told you that you're not enough for him unless he has sex with another woman -- but you can jump on-board with a threesome if you'd like! Gee, with an offer like that, who needs monogamy? You seem like a sweet person, but now is the time to use your head and tell him this threesome thing is not in the cards, and if he wants to be with other women "knock yourself out." And if he chooses that path, you're going to set him free and consider yourself lucky you found out about this before you walked down the isle. Planning marriage at your age is risky, these days, because we're living a lot longer and many people want more experience before settling down. We no longer marry just to conjoin farms! It seems you and he jumped the gun on "forever" because you two don't see eye-to-eye. Break up with him, and let him do what he has to do -- or head directly to a couple's counselor. You may love each other -- but sometimes love simply isn't enough. His idea of commitment, is you being committed to his ideas. His anger issue is something that also needs to be addressed in earnest. That, alone, is reason to hold off any marriage until he gets to the bottom of why he loses control. It may be immaturity but, many times, it goes much deeper than that. To ignore it would be at your peril.
