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His Mom Cheated On Stepdad
- By Miss Emily
- Published 05/3/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily:
Any advice is much appreciated! My situation is that I found out my mother was involved in a one night stand behind my stepfather's back. My stepfather is like my own dad because she has been with him for 18 years. They decided to split up and get a divorce. However, with emotions running high, they have now decided to get back together and work things out. My step siblings are now bad talking my mother. Especially my stepsister who is 30 years old. She posted some bad remarks about my mother on her Facebook. In response, my stepfather called my stepsister and told her he was not going to put up with her bad talking his wife. So my stepsister called me crying and told me she hates my mother. My stepsister and mother have never gotten along. I am in the middle of this issue and love my mother very much. I am going to college full-time, so I have enough stress as it is. Any advice on how I should handle this?
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
This is really business between your mother and stepfather. The fact that everyone found out about your mother's one night stand is unfortunate, but no one can un-ring this bell. Try to distance yourself from it. Parents are human, and do all too human things. You'd really have to walk in your mom's shoes to know why she did what she did. I'm not excusing it, but I have no right to condemn it, either. My best advice to you is this: Politely tell your stepsister that you can't get in the middle of this debacle. Her father, and your mother have chosen to work it out, and it's senseless to drag this issue through the mud. In other words, you take the high road. Your stepfather did the wise thing in telling his daughter he will not tolerate her bad-mouthing your mother, his wife. That's the first start to getting past this, if possible. Your stepsister is foolish to continue some type of vendetta against your mom. It will only continue to put a wedge between her and the rest of the family. Her choice, but your best bet is to not pass judgment, and let the adults deal with this issue on their own.
Any advice is much appreciated! My situation is that I found out my mother was involved in a one night stand behind my stepfather's back. My stepfather is like my own dad because she has been with him for 18 years. They decided to split up and get a divorce. However, with emotions running high, they have now decided to get back together and work things out. My step siblings are now bad talking my mother. Especially my stepsister who is 30 years old. She posted some bad remarks about my mother on her Facebook. In response, my stepfather called my stepsister and told her he was not going to put up with her bad talking his wife. So my stepsister called me crying and told me she hates my mother. My stepsister and mother have never gotten along. I am in the middle of this issue and love my mother very much. I am going to college full-time, so I have enough stress as it is. Any advice on how I should handle this?
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
This is really business between your mother and stepfather. The fact that everyone found out about your mother's one night stand is unfortunate, but no one can un-ring this bell. Try to distance yourself from it. Parents are human, and do all too human things. You'd really have to walk in your mom's shoes to know why she did what she did. I'm not excusing it, but I have no right to condemn it, either. My best advice to you is this: Politely tell your stepsister that you can't get in the middle of this debacle. Her father, and your mother have chosen to work it out, and it's senseless to drag this issue through the mud. In other words, you take the high road. Your stepfather did the wise thing in telling his daughter he will not tolerate her bad-mouthing your mother, his wife. That's the first start to getting past this, if possible. Your stepsister is foolish to continue some type of vendetta against your mom. It will only continue to put a wedge between her and the rest of the family. Her choice, but your best bet is to not pass judgment, and let the adults deal with this issue on their own.
