Hi Miss Emily

 I'm 17-years old and I'm having a problem deciding if I like the guy or not. So me and this guy are friends and have had sex a couple of times and I really liked it too... he did too... but now he pushes me away because he's not looking for a commitment. But I just want to be friends because I don't really like-like him. I want us to be close buds like before we had sex. It's hard to hang-out, because it's really awkward. I don't want to lose a good friend.What should I do?

---------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------

Once the line has been crossed from friendship to having sex, it can become awkward. It takes two very mature people to say, "Okay, we had sex. Neither of us wants a commitment, and let's go on as we had before."  He is having some mixed emotions, and that's why he is pushing you away. He also may feel a little guilt, or responsibility in how this played out. I think the only thing you can do is tell him, and in person, "Look, we are both responsible for what happened. Bottom line: I only want friendship (and be sure that's all you want). If we can find our way back to it, that would be great. But it takes two, and I'm willing to try." See what he says. You can't un-ring a bell. You had sex with him. It's a fact. (I hope you used protection!) There is a chance of recovering what you had but, as I said, it's takes a great deal of understanding, and a willingness to put this in proper perspective.