Hi Emily,

I had sex with my personal trainer. We only had sex once and it was not good. He didn't really seem into it.  Despite it being bad, I feel really bad about being rejected or something. So I see him from time to time and try to play it cool, but my heart is broken every time. I really want to move on and have no feelings about this guy. So I am wondering if I need to quit the gym. I really like this gym but I may have to leave it.  I don't know if I could get over him as fast as I would like -- not to mention I have a boyfriend that I have been with for 8yrs. My crush is affecting my relationship.

---------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------

Yes, I think leaving would be the right thing to do if you want to stop torturing yourself over a one-time hook-up that proved a bust. Your trainer no longer seems to have any interest in you, and he probably does this sort of thing as often as he works his abs. The best thing for you to do, now, is figure out why you had this encounter with him, and whether this is a sign your 8 year relationship is in serious trouble. I know there's temptation in most relationships, and I don't pass judgment on acting on those temptations -- but it's a sign something isn't right in the relationship you have, now, unless an open relationship was part of the terms of entering into it. I think this is a wake-up call for you to do some soul searching. Were you to not come to any conclusions, seek the advice of a counselor.