I like this guy, but I don't know if he likes me. We are colleagues, but I told him from day one when we we're very intimate, that I do not want any serious relationship, I just want sex. And now, I think I am in love with him. We have been going out for five months. He is married with 2 children. His wife and kids live abroad. They don't have the right papers to join him. He controls the relationship, I text him every time asking him whether he wants to go out, and sometimes he says yes and other times he says no. I miss him all the time, but he does not show that he misses me. He is perfect when we are together, but other times he just acts as if I do not exist. I have been texting him for two days asking him whether he wants to go out, and twice he turned me down, saying he's tired and does not want to go. Shall I text him today as well? Maybe he is really tired, and maybe he wants his space. I need some real advice. Shall I tell him that I love him? I don't know what to do.

--------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------

My heart goes out to you for the pain you are feeling.  I can see how you started this with the belief that it would be a casual sex with no strings attached.  Clearly, he was game for a friends with benefits arrangement.  The problem is that your feelings have evolved and his have not. It sounds like he would be happy to keep the sex on his terms; seeing you when he wants without taking your needs into consideration.  The question to ask yourself is this: Is this the type of relationship you want?  While the sex might be great, a lasting relationship is built on trust and friendship.  Do you feel like you can trust him?  I know that you had no intention of falling in love with him - he's a married father of two.  I also know that feelings can't just be shut off overnight.  Rather than worrying about giving him his space, my advice is to give YOURSELF some space from him and room to heal.