Dear Miss Emily:

I am a Jewish femaie, involved in a warm loving relationship with a non Jewish male. He accidently used the word Jew as a verb in a sentence, realized what he did and apologized. I am having difficulty moving past this, since this deeply hurt -- especially coming from him. Any advice? Thank you.

------------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------

 It was an offensive thing to hear, to say the least, and I know this sort of thing strikes at the very heart of you. I think, however, that if he is a respectful, loving man, and has in no other way shown a side of him that is truly anti-semitic, I'm going to suggest you give him a pass and try to forget about it. Let's chalk it up to one moment of stupidity, something he realized was an absolute unacceptable thing to say (no matter who he's speaking to), and feels forever embarrassed, as much as you felt offended.