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Iffy Relationship On Facebook
- By Miss Emily
- Published 04/14/2011
- Relationships - Teens
Dear Miss Emily,
Ok, so I'm a 15 year old girl and, recently, I've started talking to the guy who's 17. We met on Facebook. Now I know this isn't very smart because he could be a weird creeper guy, or some thug, but there's always that possibility that hes telling the truth right? I really like him but is there a way I can make sure he is who he says he is? Also he lives in a another city, and, um, well, he dropped out of school and doesn't have a job -- which I don't agree with, and I know my parents definitely won't approve. But he's so nice, and selfless, and understanding. I do like him, so any advice?
----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
In your e-mail, you gave me all the reasons not to get involved with him. There are a lot of nice people in the world, but many of them are dysfunctional. If he dropped out of school, has no job, and your parents would go ballistic if you were with him, why make your life harder than it has to be? Getting involved with someone also means being compatible, having mutual respect, and sharing responsibility. Right now, he's a drop out, with no job, and that's two big pieces of baggage, in my opinion. I think you should want more than that from a boyfriend. It's possible that the thought of getting involved with him is cooler than the reality. He lives in another city, and without gas money to see you, this relationship is stalled from the get-go. As far as finding out who he is if you're uncertain, well, Google him. But because of his age (assuming that is his age), he probably doesn't have much of a trail.
Ok, so I'm a 15 year old girl and, recently, I've started talking to the guy who's 17. We met on Facebook. Now I know this isn't very smart because he could be a weird creeper guy, or some thug, but there's always that possibility that hes telling the truth right? I really like him but is there a way I can make sure he is who he says he is? Also he lives in a another city, and, um, well, he dropped out of school and doesn't have a job -- which I don't agree with, and I know my parents definitely won't approve. But he's so nice, and selfless, and understanding. I do like him, so any advice?
----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
In your e-mail, you gave me all the reasons not to get involved with him. There are a lot of nice people in the world, but many of them are dysfunctional. If he dropped out of school, has no job, and your parents would go ballistic if you were with him, why make your life harder than it has to be? Getting involved with someone also means being compatible, having mutual respect, and sharing responsibility. Right now, he's a drop out, with no job, and that's two big pieces of baggage, in my opinion. I think you should want more than that from a boyfriend. It's possible that the thought of getting involved with him is cooler than the reality. He lives in another city, and without gas money to see you, this relationship is stalled from the get-go. As far as finding out who he is if you're uncertain, well, Google him. But because of his age (assuming that is his age), he probably doesn't have much of a trail.
