Dear Miss Emily:

I am a teenager and have recently begun dating a guy. He's a year older than me and I haven't known him for that long. We clicked right away, and I thought things were going really well. However, lately I have been having a hard time getting him to make plans, and I when looking on a social networking site I saw that he had called a couple other girls 'hun', which he calls me sometimes. It's driving me crazy to think that he might be a player, or dating other girls, but on the other hand we aren't exclusive or committed. He doesn't seem like the kind of guy that would do this sort of thing, so I have no idea what to think. I need help!

----------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------

Exclusive, or not, if you're having trouble making plans with him, and he's spreading himself thin on his facebook page, he doesn't seem all that serious about his relationship with you. He's like a pollinating bee. So many flowers, so little time! It's up to you on how acceptable you find his "free spirited ways" but if you want someone who is invested in having a relationship with you, he's not the right guy. Even if you aren't a couple, you'd like some assurance that, after a date with him, he's not exceeding the speed limit to get home in order to sign-in to his facebook account.  Start looking at other possibilities and, also, let him come to you. If he asks why your interest has waned, tell him you want to date a guy who shows more interest in you than he does. It's the truth. His reaction will tell you all you need to know about where you stand in his life.  Emily