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Husband Lied About Funding Adult Daughter On Drugs
- By Miss Emily
- Published 03/22/2011
- Relationships - Women
Emily:
I just found out my husband of 34 years lied to me about money. He continues to send his 44 year old daughter who is a drug addict, when he promised he would not send her anymore money. This is the first lie that he has told me in 34 years. PS these are not our children just his first marriage.
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
If this is the first lie he told you in 34 years, you're a very lucky woman! I'm not trying to be flippant, it's just a rarity -- and I should know because I get letters from women who have relationships with men who do nothing but lie. Now, that said, I would think he carries some guilt for his daughter's failure in life -- as well, he does not want to see her on the streets. You and he need some counseling on this issue. Not so much marital, but from a professional who can tell you how to handle his daughter without continuing to be an enabler. That's where I would start. I'd tell him that you forgive him this rather serious breach of your trust, but you need to find a way to deal with it, now, and not let it continue on this course. You seem like a reasonable person, despite your present hurt by him keeping this from you. But the damage is done, he can't go back and change it. This only requires a solution, and one you and he can live with.
I just found out my husband of 34 years lied to me about money. He continues to send his 44 year old daughter who is a drug addict, when he promised he would not send her anymore money. This is the first lie that he has told me in 34 years. PS these are not our children just his first marriage.
--------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------
If this is the first lie he told you in 34 years, you're a very lucky woman! I'm not trying to be flippant, it's just a rarity -- and I should know because I get letters from women who have relationships with men who do nothing but lie. Now, that said, I would think he carries some guilt for his daughter's failure in life -- as well, he does not want to see her on the streets. You and he need some counseling on this issue. Not so much marital, but from a professional who can tell you how to handle his daughter without continuing to be an enabler. That's where I would start. I'd tell him that you forgive him this rather serious breach of your trust, but you need to find a way to deal with it, now, and not let it continue on this course. You seem like a reasonable person, despite your present hurt by him keeping this from you. But the damage is done, he can't go back and change it. This only requires a solution, and one you and he can live with.
