Dear Miss Emily:

So I like this girl and I'm pretty sure she likes me back, but she has a boyfriend. Her boyfriend is one of those douchbags that doesn't want her to txt guys, but she told me she doesn't care and is still going to txt me. I told her I like her, and she said tht she wasn't going to break up with her boyfriend because she didn't want to hurt him. Her friend was talking to her about me, and her friend wants her to stop talking to me because she said she knows her and doesnt want me to get hurt -- and that this girl I like will just lead me on. What should I do? I really like this girl and she means the world to me.

-------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------

One of the biggest lines of B S is when someone says, "I don't want to break up with him (her), because I don't want to hurt him." It's either a gutless approach, or the person wants to have it both ways. I would listen to her friend. The more correspondence you have with this girl, the deeper your feelings are going to be. If she can't break up with her boyfriend, that's her choice -- but I would make it clear to her that you can't get involved in any way with her unless she's out of her present relationship.  It's called being responsible for your behavior, and she might as well learn that now. And you should want to do it this way. If you have your heart broken because you were complicit in this, I think you'd have only yourself to blame.