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Taping Her In The Bedroom
- By Miss Emily
- Published 03/17/2011
- Relationships - Women
Dear Miss Emily:
When I was 5 months, and 8 months pregnant my fiance left a tape recorder in our room to see what I did when he wasn't home. He did this for a full year! Now he says he hears me having sex and talking dirty and what not when I'm absolutely not! Seven months have gone by and I'm so sick of it. I just said fine I cheated. He won't let me prove I didn't do it! Now I'm having to deal with him making me admit to it and, yes, he does make me. What do I do now?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------
If you're truly serious about what you've told me, this man is pathetic -- and I'm being kind. To put a recorder in the bedroom, if he really did this, warrants proof and he has none. Whether he did this, or just said he did, you have a real problem on your hands. I hope you aren't still planning on marrying this dip! If this were me, after what he did (or said he did), I'd see this as grounds for breaking up with him and only sharing custody of your child, period. This man is paranoid, obviously doesn't trust you, is horribly insecure, grossly disrespectful, controlling, and has invaded your right to privacy. How could you and he possibly have a decent marriage based on these absurd and disturbing premises? I'd tell him you are sick of his games, and he is the one who is untrustworthy. I would then find a way to raise your child without him. For him to accuse you of something you did not do, and with the seriousness of this issue, I would doubt that marrying him would ever make you feel secure -- only nervous that he will accuse you of other things based on his extreme paranoia, his stealthy use of technology, and an inability to trust someone who is trustworthy. I am so sorry, but you're screwed if you stay with this nut job.
When I was 5 months, and 8 months pregnant my fiance left a tape recorder in our room to see what I did when he wasn't home. He did this for a full year! Now he says he hears me having sex and talking dirty and what not when I'm absolutely not! Seven months have gone by and I'm so sick of it. I just said fine I cheated. He won't let me prove I didn't do it! Now I'm having to deal with him making me admit to it and, yes, he does make me. What do I do now?
------------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------
If you're truly serious about what you've told me, this man is pathetic -- and I'm being kind. To put a recorder in the bedroom, if he really did this, warrants proof and he has none. Whether he did this, or just said he did, you have a real problem on your hands. I hope you aren't still planning on marrying this dip! If this were me, after what he did (or said he did), I'd see this as grounds for breaking up with him and only sharing custody of your child, period. This man is paranoid, obviously doesn't trust you, is horribly insecure, grossly disrespectful, controlling, and has invaded your right to privacy. How could you and he possibly have a decent marriage based on these absurd and disturbing premises? I'd tell him you are sick of his games, and he is the one who is untrustworthy. I would then find a way to raise your child without him. For him to accuse you of something you did not do, and with the seriousness of this issue, I would doubt that marrying him would ever make you feel secure -- only nervous that he will accuse you of other things based on his extreme paranoia, his stealthy use of technology, and an inability to trust someone who is trustworthy. I am so sorry, but you're screwed if you stay with this nut job.
